Hi, my name is Dallas, and I wanted to share the next step in my journey with Soldiers’ Angels, this time, as someone learning to navigate social anxiety while giving back in a meaningful way. Volunteering is something I have always wanted to do, but it hasn’t always been easy. While I’ve found joy and comfort in virtual opportunities, I knew deep down that I eventually wanted to challenge myself to try something in person. Still, the thought of meeting new people, being in unfamiliar settings, and having unexpected conversations was enough to make me pause. 

What is Social Anxiety  

Social anxiety isn’t just about being shy or nervous. It’s a persistent fear of being judged, embarrassed, or negatively evaluated in a social setting. For me, it shows up as a constant worry that I’ll make a mistake, embarrass myself, and reflect poorly on the people I’m with. I don’t want to be the reason something goes wrong or the person who holds others back. 

For some, this might mean avoiding eye contact or struggling to speak up. For others, it could involve overthinking every word or feeling physically anxious before and after interactions. It’s different for everyone, and that’s important to remember. What may seem like a small or simple situation to one person can feel overwhelming to someone else. That’s been my experience, and it’s something I’ve been working through, one step at a time. 

Taking the First Step  

I started with letter-writing. Quiet, reflective, and on my own time. It gave me purpose without pressure. Once I felt ready to do more, I looked for an in-person opportunity that still felt manageable. That is when I came across the Healing Garden at the Polytrauma Transitional Rehabilitation Program (PTRP) facility in San Antonio. I learned all about the garden while writing a blog about the recent updates happening there. It felt like the right fit: outdoors, peaceful, and task-focused, rather than heavy on social interaction. Plus, I had already been there before, which made it a little less intimidating. 

Yes, talking was still involved, but it wasn’t an overwhelming amount. I needed to let them know I was there, receive instructions, and ask follow-up questions when needed. The rest of the time, I was focused on the garden. Pat Jopling, who led the project, was kind, patient, and easy to talk to. She helped create a calm, welcoming environment that made the experience feel safe. I am grateful for that, because it makes a huge difference.  

The garden itself was exactly what I needed. I helped with a variety of tasks, deadheading rose bushes (removing faded blooms to help new ones grow), pulling weeds, trimming plants that blocked the pathway, and gently guiding a climbing plant around its support. I even helped remove an old plant to make room for something new and moved stones. Each task was straightforward and purposeful.

Managing the Tough Moments 

There were moments when I felt overwhelmed. When the quiet wasn’t enough, or when I started to spiral in my head. But something about the garden helped soothe those feelings. The gentle sounds of nature, the sunlight filtering through the leaves, and the simple act of using my hands to care for something growing. 

Having a clear task helped. I could see the progress of my work, which gave me a sense of accomplishment. I had told myself I would go, and I did. But more importantly, I wanted to keep going, because I had learned what this space meant to Veterans and Service Members. Thinking about why I was there and who I was helping made all the difference. I’m proud to be a part of something so meaningful. 

Start Your Journey  

To anyone with social anxiety who’s considering volunteering, know that it’s okay to start small. You do not have to jump into big group activities or high-pressure roles. Begin where you feel safe, maybe it’s writing a letter or sending a care package. Then, when you are ready, look for opportunities that match your comfort level. The healing garden was that for me.  

Volunteering does not have to be loud or social to be meaningful. Even quiet acts of service make a difference. If you’re on the fence, take a breath and try one small step. You might just find the perfect place for you to contribute—on your own terms, and in your own time. When you are ready, start your journey here.

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